The Stories They Carry: Trauma, Trust, and the Power of How We Care

When someone enters long-term care, they bring a lifetime with them—decades of love, loss, resilience, illness, joy, hardship, and change. They bring memories of raising families, building careers, surviving wars, navigating discrimination, enduring heartbreak, and celebrating milestones. And sometimes, they bring trauma.

Research suggests that up to 70% of adults have experienced at least one traumatic event. For individuals in long-term care, that history doesn’t disappear at admission—it comes with them.

 

Trauma-informed care begins with one powerful understanding: the reactions we see today may be rooted in experiences from years—or even decades—ago. A flinch during care, a refusal, a sharp tone, or sudden tears are not always about the present moment. They can be survival responses shaped by earlier fear, loss of control, or harm.

 

Not everyone will share their trauma history. Many can’t. Many won’t. Yet everyday interactions—a rushed touch, an unexpected entrance, a loud voice, even standing too close—can unintentionally act as triggers.

 

At times, an individual may react strongly to a staff member for reasons that aren’t obvious. Subtle similarities—such as tone, presence, or mannerisms—can activate memories the person may not even consciously recognize. That reaction can feel unfair or personal, but it isn’t.

 

When caregivers understand that a reaction may not be about them, it changes everything. Awareness helps you stay grounded instead of defensive. Your body language, tone, pace, and state of mind influence how safe someone feels more than we often realize.

 

When someone becomes distressed, pause. Lower your voice. Slow your movements. Soften your posture. Your steadiness can shift the direction of an interaction faster than correction or control ever will. In long-term care, safety is built moment by moment. While we can’t change someone’s past, we can shape how care feels today.

 

Trauma-informed care is not just for healthcare professionals. It belongs to everyone—housekeeping, dietary, maintenance, activities, reception, leadership, and clinical teams alike. Every interaction shapes the environment.

 

Here are practical ways all staff can reduce trauma triggers:

 

  1. Knock. Pause. Introduce.
    Whether delivering a tray, fixing equipment, or providing personal care, knock and wait, announce yourself, and approach from the front when possible. Predictability builds safety.

  2. Explain What’s Happening.
    Even routine tasks can feel intrusive without context. Briefly explain what you’re doing and why. Clear communication reduces startle responses.

  3. Ask Before Entering Personal Space.
    Ask before adjusting clothing, moving belongings, or assisting with mobility. Small permissions restore a sense of control.

  4. Be Aware of Tone and Pace.
    A hurried tone or abrupt movement can heighten anxiety. Slow your speech, keep your voice calm, and move with intention.

  5. Protect Dignity Everywhere.
    Avoid discussing personal matters in public areas. Lower your voice during sensitive conversations. Ensure privacy during care. Privacy is protection.

  6. Regulate Yourself First.
    When emotions rise, pause before responding. Slow your breathing, steady your voice, and be intentional with your movements. Creating a sense of calm in yourself can prevent escalation and help the interaction move in a safer direction.

Education in trauma-informed care is empowerment. It helps staff recognize that behaviors often have deeper roots and that reactions are not personal. With that awareness comes steadiness and safer interactions. Trauma-informed training strengthens communication, reduces escalation, and creates environments where both staff and those they support feel more secure and understood.

To learn how to apply these principles in everyday care, Healthcare Academy offers the course Trauma-Informed Care: A Change in Perspective, available for individual purchase.  The training helps caregivers connect behavior to underlying experience, recognize triggers, and respond in ways that promote safety, dignity, and trust. Whether taken independently or as part of a broader training plan, it supports more thoughtful interactions and a calmer, more secure care environment for everyone.

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Amanda Keith, MSN, RN, PHN, PhD

Healthcare Academy Clinical Content Manager

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